The media, whether it be movies, television, or porn, loves to portray an orgasm as this explosive release that happens so easily and with very minimal effort. The reality is that it isn't that easy for the majority of the population, in fact, research tells us that 30% of women "rarely or never" orgasm during vaginal intercourse and between 5-10% of people who have a vulva experience anorgasmia at some point in their lives.
Our patients come to us telling us they feel like the "fireworks" they once experienced are just a dull sparkle now, some tell us they've never reached an orgasm and don't even know what it would feel like if they did have one, and some patients tell us that they can only achieve an orgasm when they use a certain toy, alone, or with a certain partner. This leaves so many people feeling hopeless and full of self-doubt that they can't preform for themselves or for their partners.
If this is you, don't give up hope! With time and knowledge you can get back to feeling like yourself again & take back control of your sex life, continue reading to learn more.
What Is Anorgasmia?
Anorgasmia is described by the Mayo Clinic as "delayed, infrequent, or absent orgasms - or significantly less-intense orgasms — after sexual arousal and adequate sexual stimulation". It's important to remember that orgasms vary drastically from one person to another, no two are alike, so make sure you take that into account. Compare against yourself, not against other people.
It's also necessary to note that there can be a myriad of factors that can contribute to your ability to perform sexually aside including alcohol or drug use, certain medications like SSRIs, and various psychological factors like your perception of yourself, body image issues, and low self esteem.
Anorgasmia can be categorized into several different categories: primary, secondary, and situational and they all manifest themselves in different ways.
Primary Anorgasmia is a condition in which a person has never had an orgasm in any way, whether that be via penetrative intercourse, oral, manual stimulation or masturbation and regardless whether it's solo or with a partner.
Secondary Anorgasmia is defined as a condition in which a person has achieved orgasms in the past but no longer can, or is unhappy with the amount of time it now takes them to reach an orgasm, or is frustrated with the sensation of orgasms now compared to in the past (ie. Used to feel fireworks, now feels like a dull sparkle).
Situational Anorgasmia is when a person can only reach an orgasm in certain situations with specific types of stimulation or specific partners.
How Do The Pelvic Floor Muscles Play a Part?
We learned in previous blog posts that the pelvic floor is a group of muscles that form a sling-like structure at the base of the pelvis, these muscles go from front to back and from side to and that they play a crucial role in supporting the pelvic organs as well as inhibiting sexual function.
The superficial pelvic floor muscles function to help people achieve an erection, ejaculate, and orgasm.
I think My Pelvic Floor is Affecting My Sexual Function, What Now?
If any of these symptoms or sensations speak to you, don't panic, you're not alone and you can overcome this. We understand that sexual health and being content and happy with your sex life plays a huge role in many people's mental health & the strength of their relationships.
One excellent way to improve sexual function, regain your confidence, and take back your sex life is through Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy. Pelvic Floor PT has been shown time and time again to improve sexual function in both men and women, whether that be lack of orgasm, pain with intercourse, or a combination of the two.
At Restoration Health Collective our team of pelvic floor specialists will create a personalized treatment plan specifically for your needs and goals. You'll receive one-on-one care with a physical therapist who is dedicated to helping you reach your goals and take back your confidence once again.
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